Good Dating Advice

My dating scope is as limited as as a microscope in that I don’t have much experience. I had dating apps a few years back, but now I don’t have as many. I wouldn’t go back to really any main apps due to the socioeconomic climate. Despite this, I can say that there is a huge divide becoming wider for those who are against fascism and those who are not.

To be clear I do not think everyone should make politics their personality. It is obviously very important to me but doesn’t have to be the only thing. I’m also not saying that your partner needs to run in 2026 against Bill Lee... unless they’re truly interested.

I think this truly a natural flow of life since we are getting into a recession. People are becoming more wise with their dollar because they are becoming more aware of the power of their dollar. Most of us find that ‘third places’ now cost at least twenty dollars, just to enter them. We now need to be more cautious about where we spend our money and our free time. The third places that you visit are where you would find that someone special, better than most on the apps.

For many of us our third spaces may be a grocery store, local bar, or park that you enjoy. In my experience most times you will typically find a lot of couples there for two reasons:

Couples have two incomes to consider so they have more options to spend more money on local items.
Women/Female presenting people typically care more about building and maintaining their communities

(sources for second claim: https://www.socialclublf.com/blog/the-power-of-community-why-it-matters-for-women / https://feministpeacenetwork.org/the-challenges-women-face/ / https://www.smartcapitalmind.com/what-is-the-role-of-women-in-community-development.htm )

What does this mean for people in my generation who are playing theoretical chicken with the socioeconomic situation in the world. The deal being who will break first, the women who want a partner with good morals?; or a fascist government who wants to control them by using their partner? Hold on, I think I’ve seen this film before and I didn’t like the ending. Seems circa 1940s if you ask me, I prefer my irony 1990s or newer.

The option many of us will take is to hold out until we meet a partner who will won’t be a fascist. I can hear the argument, ‘not every guy is a fascist’, no but most will comply in advance. The first step to defy any governmental overreach is to know, your partner will have your back against it. The main thing many of us are considering is waiting until more men/women/people are in the community spaces. Dating apps don’t always foster the best relationships….for me but I do know at least three couples that found success. At my age though most aren’t looking for anything more than a night. Although none of us can predict the future, these short interactions put you at higher risk for a partner who won’t protect you. This is an unprecedented time and unprecedented dating calls for us to be extra protective of ourselves and our rights. This isn’t meant to scare but explain and encourage. Love is complicated and personal to everyone, so nobody has the right answer until hindsight gives it perfect vision.